A Little Secret Between You and Me :)

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Let me share a little secret with you, just in case no one has ever taught you this 

The thing about arguments and conflicts is this: if you can understand your own contribution, I'm not talking about who was right or wrong. You may have been 100% right, but you may have also contributed 100% to the escalation of the situation.

When you honestly recognize what you did that added fuel to the fire, it's not just a sign of emotional maturity, it also gives your heart a chance to relax. You stop carrying the weight of proving yourself right and start creating space for peace.

Of course, this does not apply when someone intentionally tries to hurt, manipulate, or abuse you. That's a completely different situation, and you don't need to question yourself in those moments.

But for everyday conflicts and arguments, understanding your own role can be incredibly freeing. It allows your heart to take a break, your mind to settle, and you can finally breathe again  You can relax because your heart understands nobody betrayed you ...

Try it, and let me know how it feels. 🤍

With love,

Semiha

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